Feeling suicidal is not a character defect, and it doesn't mean that you are crazy, a freak, a weirdo, or weak, or flawed.
Each individual has a brain that is the same size in everyone of us. But each person's brain processes information differently to another person. This means that you have more pain right now than your brain can cope with right now.
This pain seems overwhelming and permanent at the moment. But with time and eventually support, you can overcome your problems and this pain and suicidal feelings you are experiencing will pass.
You are thinking of taking your own life away. You are overwhelmed by depression and have lost all hope. But the pain of depression can be treated and hope can be renewed.
No matter what your situation, there are people who need you, places where you can make a difference, and experiences that can remind you that life is worth living. You contribute to society even if you don't realize it.
It takes real courage to face death and step back from the brink. You can use that courage to face life, to learn coping skills for overcoming depression, and for finding the strength to keep going.
Your emotions are not fixed - they are constantly changing. How you feel today may not be the same as how you felt yesterday or how you'll feel tomorrow or next week.
Your absence would create grief and anguish in the lives of friends and loved ones. There are many things you can still accomplish in your life.
There are sights, sounds, and experiences in life that have the ability to delight and lift you - and that you would miss.
Your ability to experience pleasurable emotions is equal to your ability to experience distressing emotions.
Many kinds of emotional pain can lead to thoughts of suicide. The reasons for this pain is unique to only you and the ability to cope with this pain differs from person to person.
If you are unable to think of solutions other than suicide, it is not that other solutions don’t exist, but rather that you are currently unable to see them at the moment.
The intense emotional pain that you’re experiencing right now can distort your thinking so it becomes harder to see possible solutions to problems, or to connect with those who can offer support. Therapists, counselors, friends or loved ones or even strangers can help you to see solutions that otherwise may not be apparent to you. You can give them a chance to help.
It seems your pain and unhappiness will never end, it's important to realize that this is just temporary. Solutions are often found, feelings change, unexpected positive events occur. Give yourself the time necessary for things to change and the pain to subside.
Mental health conditions such as depression, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder are all treatable with changes in lifestyle, therapy, and medication. You can seek help and this will improve your situation and you will recover.
Even if you have received treatment for a disorder before, or if you’ve already made attempts to solve your problems, know that it’s often necessary to try different approaches before finding the right solution or combination of solutions.
When medication is prescribed, for example, finding the right dosage often requires an ongoing process of adjustment. Don’t give up before you’ve found the solution that works for you. All mental disorders problems can be as last resort treated or hopefully resolved entirely.
Promise not to do anything right now.
You’re in a lot of pain right now, give yourself some distance between thoughts and action. Make a promise to yourself: "I will wait 24 hours and won't do anything drastic during that time." Or, wait a week.
Thoughts and actions are two different things—your suicidal thoughts do not have to become a reality. There is no deadline, no one's pushing you to act on these thoughts immediately.
Wait. Wait and put some distance between your suicidal thoughts and suicidal action.
Suicidal thoughts can become even stronger if you have taken drugs or alcohol. It is important to not use non-prescribed drugs or alcohol when you feel hopeless or are thinking about suicide.
Remove things you could use to hurt yourself, such as pills, knives, razors, or firearms. If you are unable to do so, go to a place where you can feel safe.
It not always possible to reach out but try and open up to someone you know or a complete stranger in a safe enviroment as keeping these suicidal feelings to yourself will esculate the problem.
If you can let someone know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or embarrassment prevent you from opening up. And if the first person you reach out to doesn’t seem to understand, try someone else.
Just talking about how you got to this point in your life can release a lot of the pressure and stress that’s building up and help your brain's thinking process and find a way to cope.
You are feeling as badly as you ever have right now but you will always survive these feelings. Take hope in this. You will live through these feelings, no matter how much self-loathing, hopelessness, or isolation you are currently experiencing. Just give yourself the time needed as long as it takes.
If you promised yourself 24 hours or a week, try and use that time to tell someone what's going on with you. Admitting your suicidal thoughts and whats going through your head to another person is either the most or one of the most extremely difficult things you will ever do.
Tell this person exactly what you are telling yourself. If you have a suicide plan, explain it to them. It's important to point out that phrases such as, ‘I can't take it anymore’ or ‘I’m done’ are vague and do not illustrate to the person you are opening up to how serious things really are.
If it is too difficult for you to talk about, try writing it down and handing a note to this person. Or send them an email or text and sit with them while they read it.
Remember that while it may seem as if these suicidal thoughts and feelings will never end, this is NEVER a permanent condition. These bad feelings will always go away.
You WILL feel better again.
In the meantime, there are some ways to help cope with your suicidal thoughts and feelings which you might not follow through with but we suggest.
Talk with someone every day, preferably face to face.
Make time for things that bring you joy. Even if very few things bring you pleasure at the moment, force yourself to do the things you used to enjoy.
Give yourself a routine and stick to that routine. This can include exercise, reading, listening to music, eating. The routine should include doing the same task at the same time of day every day where possible. Example: listen to music every day at 7pm.
If you have any personal goals, try and remember them. You may have always wanted to travel to a particular place, read a specific book, own a pet, move to another place, learn a new hobby, volunteer, go back to school, or start a family. Write your personal goals down on a piece of paper.
If you don't have any personal goals, try and remember the things you used to enjoy the most or times when you laughed and any good memories you have from growing up. Write these down on paper.
Even if your suicidal thoughts and feelings have subsided, you still need to get help if you havent taken a first step to do so already.
Experiencing the sort of emotional pain that you have or are experiencing is traumatizing.
Remember that time is everything.
It will take as long as it needs to take to get you better.
But in the end once you cross over the finishing line you will have overcome a terrible experience and your brain will be able to cope with any previous thought processes in a different way to before and you will not suffer any painful thoughts or think about commiting suicidal again in the future.
You are now recovering or have recovered and you are better now.
As an insurance policy if you like, use your +1 technique. Don't just feel normal and better again. Gaurentee yourself a better you.
If possible, try and reflect on what and why you got to where you found yourself in a dark dark place.
Plan ahead and remember, time is everything. Take lots and lots of time and gradually and very slowly take the nessacery steps and get rid of what or whoever is making you feel like this.
The first thing we recommend is make yourself feel better. The easiest way to do this is to get sun kissed. You will need to spend a minimum of 3 weeks in the sun.
Your energy levels will rise massively and you will feel a new lease of life about you and you will find getting up in the morning very easy and sleeping easier at night.
The bad news is that this new feeling will not last, simply because the Northern Ireland weather does not accomodate the permanent good health effects being in the weekly sun can have on the body. But this is your first step to helping you be the new you.
If your not a fan of being in the sun, of course there are other ways to achieve this new feeling but will be slower to take effect.
These other ways will mean sacrifices will have to be made. At this stage you may be still planning and preparing on how to get rid of what or whoever was making you have these dark bad feelings but whilst doing so, the other ways to implement these new good feelings in the meantime will include:-
Alcohol - it means cutting down or stopping all together.
Stress - we have an awful habit of creating stress that wasnt even there in the first place. Its in our nature to create drama and make a big deal out of what was
before a non-event to begin with. This will mean removing yourself from whatever it is causing these situations which can very quickly escalate.
Eating healthier - easier said than done. But can go along way to keeping you in a good mood.
Finding a job - it will give you new focus and take away the previous thought processes you were having.
Changing your job - your current employment is making you unhappy. Its time to update the CV and send it on.
If you get easily bored try creating a project you can work on, such as working on a computer or drawing sketches or other hobbies such as making things from materials.
If this isnt for you, try going out running or think about joining a gym.
Be yourself and change you, even if it means having to forget about what other people think about you.
Worrying about what everyone else thinks about you will only delay the good changes that you can make by bad thoughts.
Battling your own mind is serious. The numb
of just being is very chilling. Only YOU have control over you. You are still here. It really matters. Life is brilliant. It's what you make of it.
If you are or know someone that might be thinking of taking their own life, don't be afraid to speak out in case you have got it wrong. Its better to follow your instincts if your feeling that something isn't right. firstname.lastname@example.org is here if you need to talk. We're always at the other end of the email checked daily.